Separation and divorce can be challenging enough on their own, but when a child is influenced to reject or fear one parent without good reason, it can be especially painful. This is called parental alienation, and it can have serious impacts on a child’s emotional wellbeing and family relationships.
If you suspect parental alienation is occurring, it’s important to act thoughtfully and proactively. Here are some practical steps that can help, along with insight into how the Family Court of Western Australia approaches these cases.
Maintain a Positive Relationship with Your Child
Even in difficult circumstances, try to keep your relationship with your child consistent, loving, and supportive. This can make a big difference over time.
- Regular Contact
Where possible, prioritise spending time together—whether in person, over the phone, or via video calls. Consistency helps maintain connection. - Positive Communication
Avoid criticising the other parent in front of your child. This can deepen their confusion or distress, and may be used as evidence against you later. - Reinforce Love and Stability
Keep reminding your child that you care about them and will always be there for them. Reassurance helps them feel safe and valued.
Consider Working with a Mediator
Mediation can sometimes help resolve conflicts and set healthier patterns for communication. A neutral mediator can support both parents to:
- Discuss parenting issues in a structured setting
- Develop agreements about contact and routines
- Focus on the child’s best interests rather than past grievances
Note: Mediation may not be appropriate in situations involving family violence or serious power imbalances. Always seek legal advice to decide whether it’s the right option for you.
Involve Professionals Specialising in Child Psychology
Engaging a child psychologist or family therapist can be an important part of understanding and addressing parental alienation, however, it is important to consult with the other parent first about engaging your child with a mental health professional. Psychologists and mental health providers can:
- Help your child process confusing or negative messages
- Offer strategies to rebuild trust and connection
- Provide assessments that may be helpful if your matter goes to court
Therapy can also support parents with tools for managing stress and responding calmly to challenging situations. The Court also views parents engaging in therapy proactively as a positive step to addressing co-parenting difficulties.
The Role of the Family Court in Parental Alienation Cases
The Family Court of WA has a duty to prioritise your child’s best interests above all else. If allegations of parental alienation arise, the court will take them seriously.
When considering these matters, the court may look at:
- Your Child’s Relationship with Both Parents
Efforts to keep and strengthen meaningful relationships will usually be encouraged, provided they are safe. - Evidence of Alienating Behaviour
This could include discouraging contact, making false allegations, or undermining the other parent. - Expert Recommendations
Reports from psychologists, family consultants, or other professionals can help the court understand what is happening.
Possible Consequences for Alienating Behaviour
If the court finds evidence of parental alienation, it can take action to protect the child’s welfare. This may include:
- Adjusting custody or care arrangements
- Ordering counselling or therapy
- In serious cases, changing the child’s primary residence
These steps are always aimed at ensuring the child has a safe, supportive environment that fosters healthy relationships.
Need guidance on your situation?
Parental alienation is a sensitive and complex issue, and it’s important not to face it alone. At Coastal Family Law, we can help you understand your rights and options, connect you with the right support, and advocate for your child’s wellbeing.
If you’d like to talk about your circumstances, please get in touch—we’re always here to help!
